Wednesday, February 07, 2007
Find that this is very important for all of us, the 10 commandments of clearing up:

1. Do it privately, not publicly.
2. Do it as soon as possible. That's better than waiting until things get worse.
3. Deal with one issue at a time. Don't overload the person with a long list of issues.
4. Once you've made a point, don't keep repeating it.
5. Deal only with actions the person can change. If you ask someone to do something that person is unable to do, frustration builds up in your relationship.
6. Avoid sarcasm. Sarcasm signals you are angry at PEOPLE, not at their actions. It may cause them to resent you.
7. Avoid words like ALWAYS and NEVER. They usually make people defensive.
8. Present criticisms as suggestions or questions, if possible.
9. Don't apologize for confronting the person. It may send the message that you aren't sure you had the right to say what you did.
10. Don't forget the compliments! Use what 'I' call the "sandwich" approach: Compliment-Confront-Compliment.

Source: Leading From The Lockers (Student Edition) by John C. Maxwell

Thanks Mr Maxwell.

Note to self: Thou shall not screw up when I speak with thee (:

If only it were that easy. But come on, I can do it! Through Christ who strengthens me.

Happy "next Wednesday" soon. Haha..

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Be happy, with what I have. Stop complaining and count my blessings.

Thank God for:
-Him being Himself,
-Family; for always being there to love and be loved,
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To Do List:

1. ALWAYS thank God first :D and be grateful too.
2. Grow spiritually, mentally, emotionally stronger and physically.
3. Smile always. EMO LESS! :)
4. Love everyone for who they are.
5. Do well for school for almost everything, with the help of God.